Today should be a day of enjoyment, celebrating my baby's first birthday. But instead I am struggling with the events that lead up to his delivery and trying to figure out how to cope with the fact that my delivery didn't go as planned. Do I have a healthy baby, yes. Am I mourning the way he was brought into this world, yes. Do I struggle with the fact that I will never get to deliver another baby again, yes. I had a plan but it did not go the way I expected it i to.
Super moms, remember your strength, but also embrace self-care. Saying 'NO' is okay. Prioritize yourself to recharge and shine! Read the following post from our owner as a reminder that just because you can do hard things, doesn't mean you always have to.
Finally here with round two with this three part blog series. The first part was hit or miss with some people. I do not apologize for what was written because so many women have gone through this process and have been told those things. The first blog was an eye opener that you have to be mindful of what you say to women who are struggling with infertility. Here are somethings that you should not say to women who are already pregnant and realize that not all advice is welcomed/needed.
Things you should never say to a woman who is trying to conceive a child or is pregnant and other insensitive things women have been told with the “best intentions”
There is this saying that was super popular when I was growing up “sticks and stones will break your bones, but words will never hurt me”. As I grew older I have determined that to be an absolute LIE. As I sit here pregnant with my 4th child [my first passed due to stillbirth] I reflect on the things that have been said to me over the last 13 years. Whether I was trying to conceive, already pregnant, post pregnancy or after the loss of my child. I have also asked this question in a mom group that I am in and got their input and there have been a lot of repeated things said to women that are extremely offensive but are said with “the best intentions”.
Self care is so important, but did you know there are different kinds of self-care? Come take a look at all the different kinds there are and lets dive in to each of them in the up coming weeks!
Today I cried. I let go of all that was bottled inside and I cried for hours. Do you have FOMO? Do you feel like you're just not doing "enough"...well guess what, we are!
I went on a girls trip and for the first time in a long time....relaxed. And by relaxed, I let loose and drank without having to worry about screaming kids for a whole 48 hours. This blog post is more of a brain-dump and has no real advice to give. Just wanted to take a moment and explain how I felt in that exact moment.
hmmmm feeling sad...lets talk about it! And why asking for help doesn't mean your failing and the actual fact is that it shows EXTREME strength!
How many of you are struggling extra hard right now as school is about to start. Don't be ashamed...so am I. The first step is admitting you need help and figuring out how to get the help you need! Don't be afraid to ask for help, asking for help does not make you weak. Asking for help show great strength!
I wanted to talk about something that I've been dealing with myself which is called impostor syndrome. Impostor syndrome is a psychological pattern in which one doubts one's accomplishments and has a persistent internalized fear of being exposed as a "fraud". What does this mean for me? I know that I have this whole series that I want to focus on but this spoke to my heart and I've been dealing with this recently and I was like if I'm dealing with this right now there's someone else that is dealing with this too so let me take a break from what I had scheduled to touch base on this.
This blog is about how one loss can change your life... and honestly, it changed my life for the better.